Relying On Each Other

In a relationship, when the shine and butterflies goes away and the reality of being in a relationship sets in, the feeling of imbalance can be a natural sentiment to feel.

You do all the date planning, driving, and cooking whereas your partner seems as though they don't contribute half as much as you do.

Let me tell you something and listen carefully.

Take a step back from your partisan perspective and look at the your relationship with clearer eyes. Really think about the value that s/he adds to your life beyond physical acts but everything.

Here are the a couple ways that your Significant Other is adding to your life but you don't, can't, or won't see it.

Purely Emotional & Mental Support

After a long day at work which was full of stress and problem solving, seeing somebody who can lift all that weight off with a nice warm hug is priceless.

These partners might not add much in terms of doing the chores or house labours but shine when you are in a real struggle and need somebody to talk to and think things through. They best understand your personal goals even when you have lost sight of it and they are able to put you back on the path.

A Relationship Is Never 50/50

Try to find a relationship that is perfectly balanced between all parties and you're probably dreaming. Wake Up.

Love at the end of the day is not about gaining perfection. It is about being absolutely happy with the person you love and that they feel the same way towards you.

It doesn't mean that both of you contribute the same amount down the line. If you are happy to do the majority of chores than that is fine. Don't listen to other people outside of your relationship. It is about your happiness, nobody else's.

I Pay For Everything

It might seem as though you are paying for most meals or for most drinks and getting a bit frustrated and this might be building into resentment in the relationship.

Both of you work and both of you earn. Why isn't there an equal contribution to the relationship from all parties?

A person's value isn't just based on financial value. Is that person helping you advance in your career? Is that person helping you reconnect with past passions to make sure you are always true to yourself? If so then that is a person who is somebody who is taking care of you that goes beyond money but within your soul.

Maybe That Person Isn't The One

You have looked at the whole relationship and realised that the love towards that person has fizzled out and plain feelings towards that person exist. Be honest with yourself and maybe that person is not your life long partner.

That is okay. The relationship has been constructive for both parties but now time to call it quits. Don't be afraid of this reality. Be true and honest with yourself and summon some personal bravery.